🦃 The Alternating weeks (7-7) on Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving on the Alternating weeks schedule

In a 7-7 schedule, each home has the children for a full week and changeover lands on the same weekday every week. Thanksgiving is a Thursday, so it always sits inside one of those weeks. One home gets the children for the whole holiday, four nights from Wednesday through Sunday if you count it that way, and the other home does not see them that week.

That can take a parent by surprise the first November. A week with a holiday on Thursday looks like every other week on the calendar. Nothing about the schedule splits the day for you.

So the real question is not whether the cycle handles Thanksgiving. It does not need to. The question is whether you both want to keep the plain week or build a small tradition around it, like a second dinner the following Saturday. Either one works as long as the children hear the plan before November.

How the cycle lands on the holiday

Thanksgiving is the fourth Thursday of November. In 2026 it lands on November 26, in 2027 on November 25, in 2028 on November 23 and in 2029 on November 22.

Which home has the children depends on which week of the cycle that Thursday falls in. If it falls in week 1, Home A has four of the four nights and Home B has none. If it falls in week 2, Home A has none and Home B has all four.

You can work this out years ahead with a calendar and a pencil. Find your changeover weekday, count the weeks forward from your start date, and mark which week holds the fourth Thursday. Do it once for the next four years and save the page. It is the kind of thing that becomes an argument only when nobody wrote it down.

The common arrangements

Alternate the whole break every year. One home takes Wednesday after school through Sunday evening in one year, the other home takes it the next. It is easy to remember, it gives each home a full holiday every other year, and travel plans get simpler because you know where everyone is.

Split the day. One home does lunch and the other does dinner. This works when the two homes are close and the children are old enough for two big meals and a car ride in the same afternoon. Name a handoff time, say 3:30, and keep the meals far enough apart that nobody is eating again an hour later.

Thursday at one home, Friday to Sunday at the other. The children spend Thanksgiving Day with one side of the family and the long weekend with the other, and you swap which home gets Thursday each year. It spreads the driving across two days.

Keep the regular schedule and add a second celebration. The children stay on their usual week and the other home cooks a turkey dinner the weekend before or after. Nothing on the calendar moves, nobody drives on the holiday, and the children get two dinners out of it.

Handoffs and travel

Most Thanksgiving trips involve a drive, and the Wednesday before is a heavy travel day on most roads. If your plan puts a handoff midweek, choose a spot that is not a highway shoulder. A gas station you both know, a park-and-ride, a relative's driveway. Somewhere with room to move a bag and a booster seat without a clock running.

Set the time to the half hour and say plainly who picks up and who drops off. Build the drive into the day rather than on top of it. If dinner is at 2 and the handoff is at 1:30 an hour away, that is a plan for a hungry, cranky car ride.

If one home plans to travel out of state with the children, check what your parenting plan says about notice and dates before anyone books a flight. That document governs. A text thread from August does not.

Keeping it about the children

Children notice more than we give them credit for, including which parent is hosting and whether the other one is upset about it. Two sentences cover most of it. “You are at Home A for Thanksgiving this year, and we will do ours on Saturday.” Say it in October, not in the car on the way.

Try not to ask them to rate the meals or report back on the other home. If they want to call the other parent on the day, let them, and keep the call short and warm.

Two dinners in one month is a bonus, not a contest. If a child comes home saying one house does it better, a shrug and a calm “both are good” ends it faster than a defense does.

Putting it in your parenting plan

Write down which home has Thanksgiving in which years, and be specific. “Alternating” on its own leaves room for two people to remember opposite years. Use odd and even years, or name the years out one by one for the next few cycles.

Add the start and end times, whether the break runs Wednesday after school to Sunday evening, and what happens to the regular 7-7 week when a holiday rule overrides it. If you choose a split day, note who drives which leg and where the handoff happens.

Then check the edges. Notice for out of state travel, whether a missed year gets made up, and what happens when Thanksgiving week also holds a birthday. This is general information, not legal advice. Your parenting plan or court order decides, and a mediator or family lawyer can help you work through the specifics.

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