How to set up a points and reward system for kids that actually works
Updated October 8, 2026
A good reward system makes effort visible and gives children something to work towards. A bad one turns every request into a negotiation. The difference is mostly in how you set it up.
1. Decide what earns points
Start with a short list: daily jobs, homework and one or two habits you want to build. Keep the points simple - for example 5 for a small job and 10 for a bigger one.
2. Let children help choose the rewards
Rewards children pick themselves work far better. Mix small, quick rewards (choosing dinner, 15 minutes of extra screen time) with bigger goals they save towards (a day out, a new game).
3. Price rewards so they are reachable
A child should be able to earn a small reward within a day or two and a big one within a few weeks. If nobody ever reaches the big reward, lower the price.
4. Teach saving, spending and giving
Splitting points or pocket money into spend, save and give jars is an easy, early lesson in money. If you pay pocket money, decide what one point is worth and stick to it.
5. Keep it fair and keep it going
- Give siblings different jobs but the same chance to earn
- Pay out promptly - a delayed reward loses its power
- Review the list every few months as children grow
- Use praise and celebrations, not only points
In TaskFamily you set the prices in points, kids pick from your own reward shop, save towards goals and split earnings into spend, save and give jars.
Questions parents ask
Do reward charts stop kids helping for free?
Not if everyday family jobs stay expected and rewards go to effort, extras and new habits. Gradually swap rewards for praise once a habit is automatic.
Should points be taken away for bad behaviour?
Use this sparingly. Losing points children have already earned can feel unfair; many families prefer a separate, clearly agreed consequence instead.